Sharing Some Stats: Sexual Assault on College Campuses

Hello, hello!

I am ashamed of the fact that I have not blogged all semester. The original plan was that  I would get back to it after I took my LSAT at the end of September, but the semester just picked up and got away from me.

Now, with the second snow day in a row I am running out of things to do around the house and thought, “why not take the time to write?” I just finished my senior thesis defense on a topic I have become an expert at all semester: Sexual assault on college campuses. I want to share in this post some of my discoveries with you because this is a very sensitive issue in society. It is one that I feel needs to be addressed, especially for students in college because individuals between the ages of 18-24 are at the greatest risk. I could write blog post after blog post about the many elements of this issue for others to understand the size and complexity, but first I’ll start with some known statistics:

1 in 5 women will be victims of attempted or completed sexual assault while in college

That number is about 1 in 71 for men

9 out of 10 offenders are known to their victim

2/3 of rapes occur off-campus in student housing or near the living quarters

2/3 of victims disclose that they have been raped to a close friend

and about 54.6% of victims used alcohol or drugs before the incident occurred

The reality is that for college students, sexual assault occurs with someone they know, late at night, in an off-campus setting, and usually drugs and/or alcohol are involved.

One of the biggest parts of this issue is defining consent because it is when someone’s right to consent is taken away out of force, or due to a threat, or the absence of a no is taken as a yes, assault occurs. Defining consent has been an ongoing struggle for years and recently this August California took advancements to say what it is not in their ‘yes means yes’ law. It is NOT the absence of a no, and it is NOT a lack of resistance. A “no” should NOT be rejected, it should be respectfully accepted. Individuals always have a choice in something even as simple as a “yes” or a “no”, and fearing how the partner may respond should not keep them from having a say.

This is an issue for men and women. Unfortunately, the statistics are underreported. Victims may not come forward because they are unsure if what happened could be defined as rape, maybe they do not have enough evidence, maybe they blame themselves for what happened, and maybe they are afraid to tell someone because of how they will be perceived.

There needs to be more communication in our culture about sexual assault and how individuals can take part in preventing and protecting not only themselves, but others too. In a world where now we are connected with others through the internet and social media, we have the power to speak our minds and share our stories with others. We have the power to get individuals talking and inviting not only women, but men to into the conversation because it affects them as well. On a united front we have the power to help victims know that although they cannot change their past, they do have the power to change the outcome of their future. We have the power to be educated about this issue and intervene in situations that seem risky to us through bystander intervention. We have the power to help someone so that there is on less: one less incident, one less, victim, and one less opportunity to speak up. (a huge focus point in my thesis)

After my Honors Thesis Defense on Tuesday

After my Honors Thesis Defense on Tuesday

I thank each reader for taking the time to read this. It is such an important issue that needs to come to the forefront on college campuses. Please comment below if you guys would be interested in me posting more specifically on certain aspects of this issue so that we as a community can become more educated and aware about sexual assault and the challenges it brings in our world today.

Xoxo, Gabi

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Hiatus: In A Perfect World

Hello everyone and sorry for the lack of posts this past week! I have something important to share with you all today.

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In a perfect world, there is sunshine each day.

In a perfect world, peanut butter is a food group, and chocolate and bananas are its best friends. 😉

In a perfect world, people can eat whatever and do whatever they want, and still look and feel great.

In a perfect world, people exchange an abundant amount of “thank you” with one another and their acts of kindness supersede their acts of selfishness.

In a perfect world, we can do and have it all- dream job, social life, close family and friends, and more.

However, life is not a perfect world, no matter how much we may want it to be.

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I struggle to say “no” to things and say “yes” to help when it is offered. I just want to do everything!

Well, right now my life is maxed out! My schedule is overflowing with commitments to work, internship, and LSAT classes (A LOT OF OUTSIDE STUDYING). I am struggling to find free time to blog and even fit in my workouts :(. When I do get free time during the week I am really trying to spend it with family and friends, and just take a break from my hectic schedule.

Unfortunately I need to take a break from blogging, I do not know how long. The time I spend planning and writing posts right now could be used wisely for more important things. Right now LSATs are a priority and the exam is at the end of September. I will be doing A LOT of work between now and then for a competitive high score.

I wish I could do it all and still have time to myself at the end of the day, but that is not the case.

Just yesterday I received an email from my yoga instructor who hasn’t seen me in class all week. She must have sensed something was up because her email was a reminder to take some time during the week for myself, for just me on my mat. I was grateful for that little message of light and hope to be back on track next week!

I hope to post and check in with you all here and there. So please stop back sporadically until I can get my schedule set and start blogging again!

Let’s Talk–

What keeps you sane when you are trying to handle an overwhelming schedule?

XOXO, Gabi

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Checking-in On Others

Today I am liking up with Thinking Out Loud Thursday.

Happy Thursday!

If you haven’t been here in a bit, here are some of this week’s posts to check out:

Now to today’s post!

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How many people do you think we interact with in a day?

Our family members, co-workers, people on the streets, at the store, in the gym, etc..

They all have their own story.

They all walk different paths on different roads that somehow lead them to where they are today.

Do you ever wonder about other people’s stories, or when you interact with them do you just care about how they are going to serve yours?

In the morning for example, the man behind the counter, I only care that he makes my Matcha Latte with skim milk and does not over steam the milk. If he does that correct, on to the next interaction.

But do I care to ask him how his day is going? Do I even know what kind of morning he has had? N.O.

I seek to wonder where in the world the focus has gone on just checking-in with others. With the busyness of life, we get checked-in to our own schedule, and routine, and always worry about what is next for us…BUT…what if we stop to have a quick conversation with the guy that always makes the Matcha Latte or with the yoga instructor who inspires the class to explore their strengths on the mat?

How would the world be if everyone just took one moment each day to check on someone else?

I dare you to take action.

You never know what you will learn or who’s story you’re going to impact.

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Let’s Talk–

How does it feel when others check-in on you and see how you are doing?

XOXO, Gabi

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Newbie On My Yoga Mat

Happy Tuesday everyone!

Since January I have been attending a yoga class once a week at my gym, power yoga to be exact. This summer I’ve begun to go more regularly and in doing so I am finding that there is a lot to learn about myself on the mat. Right now I consider myself a “newbie on my yoga mat” and I seek to really dive into this practice further this year. Today I am sharing with you all my “newbie” tendencies on the mat and the things I have discovered so far in my journey.

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It’s no secret that when starting off everyone wants to look like this

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But cannot help but look like this….

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Sometimes I forget to breathe

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[Technically you’re supposed to exhale when contracted and inhale when expanded…but you get what the kittens are saying :)]

OR am huffing and puffing with my breathe out of sync with the sun salutation flow.

Being a dancer, I have to admit I am guilty of a few pointed toes here and there.

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I love the concept of connecting with oneself because with working out (running, Pilates, lifting weights) there is so much focus on the physical, outer appearance. It is nice to take time and focus on the inside.

Strength in yoga is more than just physical strength, it’s mental too.

My mat is a place of challenge released from all self prisons. There is no saying “I can’t do that,” or “I’m not strong enough to hold this pose for that long”…you can do it, right here, on the mat.

When you come to yoga there is a community that surrounds you— all sorts of people come together to do yoga.

To me, yoga is a process of progress– you see yourself change in great ways each week- in strength, openness, peace, flexibility, awareness, acceptance, possibilities, and so much more.

Let’s Talk–

Do you practice Yoga? What is one thing you have learned in your journey so far?

XOXO, Gabi

 

P.S. Here is a quote that was shared at Power Yoga the other day 🙂 Enjoy you’re Tuesday everyone!!

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My Fear of the Negatives

Today I am linking up with Strength and Sunshine! #PowerMonday

I got the inspiration for this post a couple weeks ago when my boyfriend and I went paddle boarding.

It was my first time and I knew he had done it before, so I hoped to catch on fast so I could keep up with him. Immediately when the the girl showed me how to get on and grab the paddle and stand…I knew it was going to be a bit of a challenge. I just didn’t want to fall and I wanted it to be easy for me.

For the first fifteen minutes I was up and down trying to get my balance and figure out how to use the paddle, and eventually…I got it! That fifteen minutes wiped away my fear of falling into the water and not getting the technique so easy on the first try. Oh yes, there was a lot of laughing and giggling going on too!

While out there on the water I realized I have a fear of the negatives. So failing to reach a goal I have set myself, or falling down, or not being able to run as far today as I did yesterday.

What I mean by that is anything that causes a set back.

Many people in life do. We are constantly moving forward and looking to improve and gain something from all that we do. But what happens when we come up short. Do we like it? Do we learn from it?

Without accepting failure we cannot succeed. Without falling, we cannot pick ourselves back up.

Success requires risk to step out of the comfort zone, and if we are afraid to take that risk, we will never reach our full potential of success. We keep ourselves in our self-made prisons, limiting what we can gain because we are afraid to lose.

So embrace your failures, but you’re NOT a failure, because it is in that fall that you were able to then succeed. 🙂

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Let’s Talk–

What success of yours required you to let yourself fail?

XOXO, Gabi

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It’s a Fiesta (Salad)!

Happy Friday! So I left up the WIAW (What I ate Wednesday) post one more day so that people could submit votes for what 3 recipes I would be sharing. Today I am sharing one of the three..can you guess which one from the blog post title?? Yes, the fiesta salad!! It’s a mexican party and a healthy salad all.in.one.

This salad is perfect to make on a summer afternoon or the night before a full day at work. If you prep the ingredients the night before, place everything together in the morning (that way the chips aren’t soggy) and heat it all up in the microwave at the office. Everyone will surely be asking you what you have in that delicious bowl of fiesta goodness 😉

Thank you for getting the votes in and it’s not too late to share with me what you like from the WIAW (What I Ate Wednesday) “would you rather” post 🙂

fiesta saladServes 1

What you need-

  • lettuce
  • tomatoes
  • shredded cheddar cheese
  • 1 lb of ground beef ( I usually cook the whole package and have leftovers to make beef tacos or goulash)
  • taco seasoning mix
  • tortilla chips (there is a whole grain option)
  • black beans
  • can of stewed tomatoes
  • 1 tbsp of minced garlic

Directions-

Prepare the ground beef over the stove until cooked and then mix the taco seasoning into it.

In a small pot over the stove, on medium heat, place in one can of black beans, one can of stewed tomatoes, and minced garlic. Heat the mixture until it becomes a salsa like consistency.

In a bowl place the lettuce down first, then add a layer of the tortilla chips (crushed into pieces), add the ground beef, place the salsa mixture over the top, and then sprinkle the cheddar cheese over the top. I like to then place the salad in the microwave for another 30 seconds to make the cheese soft.

Here are some other versions of the fiesta salad that I have been whipping up in the kitchen….

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Feel free to try any of these varieties or add in your own extra ingredients!

XOXO, Gabi

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WIAW {Would You Rather #2}

Hi everyone! Welcome to the hottest shindig of the week!

This WIAW (What I Ate Wednesday) I am looking for your feedback! You get to participate and vote on what recipes or specific creations you want me to share. Today I am doing another round of “Would You Rather” that I tried out a few months ago. This time you pick one or the other from all three choices. The options with the most votes win! I will be sharing the recipes for the winning options or my favorite creations  (i.e. cereal) on the blog tomorrow!

Thank you Jenn for hosting this awesome linkup!

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Ready, set, go!!

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1.) A Loaded Cereal Bowl OR A Delicious Egg Scramble

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2.) A Snack Plate OR A Fiesta Salad

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3.) A Goulash Masterpiece OR A Salmon Sensation

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Feel free to comment below!

Let’s Talk–

What is your most used item in your fridge?

Want to find out more? Head to Peas and Crayons to check out how others are celebrating this What I Ate Wednesday!

As always you can click the WIAW Category on the right hand sidebar to explore some of my previous WIAW posts!

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